Always. I cannot stress that enough.
In this day, we have so much information literally at our fingertips. When the story of Kristy Gaffney broke, I was floored. Flabbergasted. I even found it hard to feel sorry for this woman.
Kristy Gaffney met a man on an online dating services. They met and started to date. She then got pregnant, and he now has her baby while an appeal waits to go through, he's planning on adopting her baby with his wife.
Take a moment, I know that was a mouthful up there. So let's take this step by step, shall we? Firstly, Kristy meets a man online. It's not rare, in fact more than 20% of Americans admit to dating or meeting online. There are tons of avenues to do so - Facebook, dating sites, chat rooms, etc. Online dating has become almost the 'norm' to singles trying to meet other singles. But with online dating comes real life deception. If a woman has no inclination to check out a man she met online, she's walking into the lion's den blindfolded.
She met a man who said he was a Dupont and worked for the CIA. Kristy says, 'Ed' told her and her whole family stories of living in castles and trips and wealth, convincing all of them he was who he said he was. And they believed him. I still cannot believe not one person thought to do a background check. It's a requirement, in my mind, to check someone new out, especially when they are in a personal level with a friend or family member. 'Ed' told Kristy he was divorced and that his ex wife couldn't ever have children.
After 6 months of dating, Kristy became pregnant. When she gave birth, she said, 'Ed Dupont' had her sign some papers. She said he told her they were paternity papers, naming him the father of the baby girl. But they were, in fact, adoption papers. She never read what she was signing, if she had she would have seen the words 'adoption', 'adoptee' etc on the document.
When the baby was about 2 months old, 'Ed' left with the baby and did not return. Kristy panicked and when she finally saw 'Ed' face to face, she was told the truth. He was married, his name is Emmitt Dippold and he was keeping the baby. They both have lawyered up and it is in an appeal phase at the moment. Dippold and his wife still have the baby, Kristy sees her every other weekend. An adoption judge will not hear the case until the other judge deals with the appeal.
Now, I am finding it very hard to feel bad for this woman. There are sites like Spokeo and Public Data in which you can find information, address, telephone number and spouses of people. The fact that she never even saw anything with his real name on it astounds me. And blindly signing ANYTHING with regards to your child without reading it is just plain ignorant. It's sad that there is a baby in the middle of this, it's sad that the wife of this Dippold can't have children. It's really pathetic that a man knowingly went into a false relationship with the intent of having a child to sneakily adopt for he and his wife. But it's irresponsible for a grown woman to sit and take for the God's honest truth every single thing a man she has known for a few months and get herself into this mess.
Background check, people! It's not hard, mostly it is free and it will save you a LOT in the long run with regards to business or personal situations.