Thursday, July 23, 2015

Yelling At A Toddler Does Not Make You A Hero

By now, we've all heard the yell gone 'round the world.

Darla Neugebauer, owner of Marcy's Diner in Portland, OR, is a hero to some (more that should be) and a monster to others. 

It happened on a rainy morning, July 22 to be precise, that Tara Carlson, her husband and 21 month old daughter went to have breakfast at Marcy's Diner.  According to Tara, the wait was about 40 minutes and in that time her toddler (as most will) became fussy and impatient. She recounts that no one around them seemed annoyed or were staring, so she decided to wait it out instead of taking her child out in the rain. 

She ordered pancakes for her daughter, and when the food finally came she put them out of reach so they could cool off and she could feed her daughter. We all have done this. It's not something new. We don't want our toddlers eating food that's too hot, let alone making a mess all over the place because when toddlers feed themselves more food ends up all over than in their mouths. 

Apparently, Darla couldn't take the fussy child. While it seemed everyone else in the place didn't mind, Darla had to make a scene and throw To Go boxes at the couple and tell them, “Either she goes or you go!”

I'd like to take a moment to point out that Darla is so involved in what she's saying that she hinted that a 21 month old toddler leave the restaurant herself, while her parents finished eating because the parents weren't the fussy ones. Let that sink in for a moment. 

The couple decided to finish eating rather than, again, head out into the rain with empty bellies and To Go boxes. Darla, again, couldn't take it and slammed her hands down and angrily pointed at the toddler and yelled, “You need to shut the hell up!”

Firstly, you don't yell at someone else's child. It's not your place, or your job. Secondly, one who honestly believes that screaming at a fussy child will shut them up is more delusional than originally believed. 

While the story is shocking in and of itself, the people who are supporting the owner of the diner is even more so. Even after she posts things like this in response to the mother's Facebook review of her experience there.  

You can read the mother's account of it all HERE

Now, with all that said, if this were to happen to me when either of my children were toddlers - the outcome would have been totally different. No one yells at my kids, but me. And when they're yelled at, it's for bad behavior. Having a meltdown is not bad behavior. 

This Darla Trash would be walking with a permanent limp and possible some facial damage. I'm just sayin'. 

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